Trust the process? Exactly how?

Hey there,

I can’t expect anything from life. Trust me, no one can.

How can you have any type of life expectancy when you are fighting over parking spots and yoga mats (Don’t get me started on that one!). What can we expect from life when a mere Taylor Swift album disappoints us. (Tell you what, she never disappoints). We are used to Taylor dropping bangers, in the same way we put ourselves and our skills on a pedestal………..never to back down.

We follow the pomodoro and wabi sabi techniques and then tell ourselves that life happens when we can’t face our own shortcomings.

I am no different, I falter all the time. I fight with external forces that always bring me down and sometimes I win. But that’s not all, I have to win everytime, I have to always give my best. I have to own a car and a house and all the smart gadgets, so that I can be considered as the successful member of the 1%.

To be honest, all these things and titles and whatnot are used to pull you back to keep you away from the gist of life. I am not saying you have to give on aspiration but I want you to think about what brought you here in the first place.

Did you win?

We all know that we can’t win at life, its messed up!!! But we can trust the process. We can show up, do our job, try to get better at it and and achieve greatness in it. This is really frustrating (Trust me I know….I have, so far rejected some really good job offers so that I could prepare to be hired in the top companies such as Mckinsey and all). I always struggle with mental and physical health issues and always struggle with following a daily routine. But the bottom line is that always get it done.

You have to draw the line where you decide how much you’re letting the changes in your life affect your work. You have to make up your mind to follow your dreams and see it happen up until the end. You have to learn and unlearn the truths about yourself (This was a important part in my therapy) and be consistent.

Yes, this takes time. yes, this will test you and yes, you will be disappointed. But, guess what? trust the process…after all you have been through it.

Till then,

Bye.

Daily writing prompt
What topics do you like to discuss?
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I think people only discuss the things that matter the most to them. Hence, I love to discuss about lifestyle issues, relationship and family problems and some much more. You won’t believe so much of my motivation comes from overcoming the hurdles life chooses to place in my way. My blog is mostly about life experiences and the lessons I learn from them. Stick around coz there’s gonna be a lot more!

Let’s be a brat

Hey there,

I don’t judge people but sometimes I have to. What can you really do about it, this world is full of hypocrisy.

So, when I see people turn into the worst childish brats for silly things, I can’t help but feel more mature than I really am. Then, there are the people who add you to group chats and expect you to never reply because when you do….no one replies.

These and many other things pull you away from the more important matters that shape our lives. Similarly, I want to focus on more important things in life and I find myself stuck in the rut. They say life happens when you are busy making others plans. But, with me life happens all the time and none of the plans work, still we have to make it work.

Let’s be the brats who make their dreams come true,
Let’s be the brats who never give up,
Let’s be the brats who don’t change with time,
Let’s be the brats who always achieve their goals,

We all know life happens and there might be some hurdles, but let’s look forward to everything going well as planned despite of it and not dwell on shortcomings,

Let’s be the brats that we all can be proud of.

Till then,

Bye.

Daily writing prompt
How do you use social media?
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Just like everyone, I use social media to find relatable content, and in turn get to feel connected. Sometimes I want to show-off and sometimes I want to share my moments of happiness with my loved ones. People might think social media is bad but why call it bad when the real culprit is you.

Stop using social media to create a craving for connection and then creating an illusion of feeling connected and truly connect with people by starting real, face to face conversations.

Let’s create a safe space for such conversations!!!!

Be kind to yourself

Hey there,

My mid-life crisis is catching up again!!! I can’t believe I am here again. If my career and pursuing studies in my 30s don’t take a toll on me then its the pressure to get married. If nothing, then the “marriage talk” has traumatized me into the toxic hyper productivity cycle. It has led me to use expletives in my poems and helped me write a series of dark scary stories(Interested? click here to read).

Time and time again I have been reminded that my dreams, my goals and in turn my life didn’t matter and each time I got more compulsive about how much it mattered. I was filled with hope when it all started, I really wanted the so called comfortable married life. But as I went through these marriage prospects I realized that I could never be a match. Some of them were good-looking, some were geniuses, some were making a lot of money and all of them were living in their own bubble.

I always think as a woman do we over-compensate for everything that men get a free pass for or am I overthinking? I am a victim of inter-familial discrimination (very common in Asian countries) or am I just young and silly?(older aunties call me that). For more or less, this gets me anxious. Can you blame me? as the most recent encounter included over inflation of my achievements and how cleverly the other party ignored me when I talked about not being considered for a tech job because of my gender(just a possibility but still).

As I fight my inner and outer demons, all I need to say is…….

STOP INTERRUPTING MY GRINDING!!!!!!!!!!!!

Renegade

I am a renegade now

I speak my mind

Even if its what you feed me

I just rewind

I am a renegade now

I don’t follow your rules

Even if inspired by you

I make my own rules

I am a renegade now

You better watch out

Every rebellion kills

For a new ruler to be born.

Daily writing prompt
What job would you do for free?
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This is the trickiest!!!!! We already do so many jobs for free (especially if you are a woman). There’s so much we do without expecting anything in return, but if I really have to do something for free I would do what I love to do. Baking, Reading, Playing Uno, Going for a walk and lots more.

Still, I don’t need to make an announcement, I already do it and don’t get paid. For rest of the things and so called skills I do, which is why I am not the richest man in the world right now.

Daily writing prompt
What are your morning rituals? What does the first hour of your day look like?
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The Tale of the Immortal Breakfast

I love to wake up early in the morning, write a journal entry- its about what I am going to do for that day, do some yoga, meditation maybe and make my breakfast from scratch. Breakfast is my favorite part. If I am having cereal then I prepare the dough a night before. If I am having pasta then I prepare it a week ago. I make my own bread and grow my own salad.

As someone who truly cares about their health, I dedicate as much time as I can to my breakfast. As breakfast is the most important meal of the day and I am an overworked corporate executive so I would go without food for the whole day.

You might ask “What’s all this fuss for?”

I say “Just cause I can!!!!”

HAPPY APRIL FOOL’S DAY!!!!!!!

TBH: Money matters a lot

(I am bringing back To Be Honest, coz its been too long and I need to address the issue at hand. I hope y’all will love reading this.)

Hey there,

Yeah! we are speaking the unspeakable.

Money always makes people uncomfortable and why not……no one can have enough. You can shame me for being lazy (Part of blaming session where I live, if you don’t make six figures and not on your way to own 2 roomed flat) but don’t blame me for not trying. I would accept that I was being lazy but not when everyone is called lazy and is going through the same.

But what disappoints me the most when people don’t take money matters seriously. Calling out people and blaming them for the life they live with the help of their hard earned money is what everyone’s interested in. What no one understands is the rise in inflation and high cost of living are equally responsible.

I used to be the clueless hopeful person who wanted the dream life along with a husband, kids, my own house and a “six figured paycheck”. But, now all of it feels impossible and out of reach. “How am I gonna make it?” is all I think about.

They say “money can’t buy happiness” but now I feel like “atleast it buys bread”. Happiness comes with peace of mind and ease in life, somewhere both of these things are controlled by money. Money indirectly governs our life. To me, besides blaming people for their circumstances, you should inform them about how to be smart with money. But then again, if everyone is smart with money then who will mess up and who will be there to blame.

Food for thought!

Till then,

Bye.